The last chapter in our book is about the time in which our children get married and we start increasing the members of our family. A chapter in life that my husband and I will start living -not only reading about!- soon. As I read this chapter and the conclusion, five principles stood apart which I want to remember in the years ahead:
1. Your children's marriage is sacred. As our children get married, they will start their very own family, in which their primarily concern will be to please their spouses, not me or my husband.
2. Respect should always be present. In my relationship with each one of my children and their spouses respect should never lack. By respecting their decisions, their dreams and desires, "their obligation to raise their children according to their own conscience and convictions, remembering that the Lord has put them in charge of our grandkids," we will be strengthening our relationship with them.
3. Become a source of blessing to your children and grandchildren. Through respect, wise conversations (in which listening plays a major role), laughs, prayer, willingness to help, and generosity, we can bless our children, their spouses, and our grandkids.
4. Trust God for your children and grandchildren. My God is a faithful and sovereign God who loves to save families. Who has promised to be faithful to a thousand generations. I believe in Him and in such Rock I stand. As one mom who from fear moved to trust in this stage, beautifully said,
"The outcome belongs to the Lord. I really have a sense of freedom having this attitude. The other idea is that I don't have to know everything that they are into, who they are with, or where they are going, because the omniscient, omnipresent Lord knows. I don't have to take up that "burden" (so to speak) which belongs to Him. Therefore I am really free to focus on building the relationship and at peace to trust God to work his perfect will." (emphasis mine)
When we parent in fear or through worry we are in fact not parenting in love. We are not building a relationship, instead we are pulling it apart.
5. Pray and ask for help. Always prayer before action, is what my wise friend told me once. And the action to take at times is to ask for godly advise.
Sisters, we have a great challenge before us every day. No matter in which parenting stage we are now, we need God's grace, God's wisdom, and God's Word. But all those are not hidden from us. God has given us, his children, grace to endure every season in our life. He has promised to give us wisdom (and wisdom in abundance!) when we ask for it. And we have His living Word, our sure anchor, a light to our feet! We have all that we need to do this. God is faithful and we can rest assured that His plans for us and our children are perfect.
Under His sun and by His grace,