I enjoy the long conversations my sister and I have on Skype. She is a godly woman and a great teacher to me. I am so grateful for her life.
I want to invite you to be part of a recent conversation we had about God's Sovereignty in our marriages and our sin. Yes, it is Friday, so get a cup of coffee and join us.
We know God is Sovereign, if we don't believe that, then we are in big trouble; because the True God is Sovereign indeed!
Now, why is it so hard at times to live our lives under the sun trusting that HE IS INDEED SOVEREIGN? If we believe that God is sovereign (and He is indeed) then He is sovereign over our marriage life too.
What does this mean? It means, dear sister, that all the struggles you and I have to face in our marriages are allowed by God. He is the one who is permitting them to happen. I am blessed to have a godly husband, but that doesn't mean that we never have struggles. We (my sister and I) have talked lately on how we often miss the mark when struggles and differences in our marriage come to our lives. Instead of seeing them as instruments of God to sanctify us, we stop seeing Him all Sovereign and start to fight on our own flesh. At this point we are already sinning.
If we are mature Christians we should start dealing with the difficulties in our marriages from a different perspective.
First, let us recognize that God is Sovereign and that all these struggles are allowed by God only to deal with us, to sanctify us, and that at the end they will be good for us. Isn't He, our Heavenly Father, the one who knows what's best for His children?
Secondly, just think how different things would be if in the very moment a struggle arises, we would take a second before we say any word to see God's hand allowing it. What if we would recognize that this struggle is just another opportunity God is giving US to deal with a sin in our own heart? What if we would stop seeing our husband's sin and start seeing our own sin in the middle of the struggle? I am sure we'll start growing more in His grace.